Your calaca
The home screen is you, without the skin: a skeleton that sways under a night sky and dances when tapped. Dress it from the wardrobe: flower crowns, sombreros, Catrina's hat, a charro suit, a fiesta dress, a guitar, maracas, five face paints. Clothes are bought with marigold petals, earned by the practices.
Privileges of years
Some things can't be bought. Glasses, a cane, a rebozo shawl and a gold tooth come with age: Catrina brings the next one on each birthday. You arrive with one for each decade past thirty. Ageing is an upgrade, not a loss.
Catrina's visit
Every day a word from La Catrina ("A wrinkle is where a smile has been") and a small errand: look at the sky for a minute, call a grandparent, eat something slowly. One quiet notice a day, at the hour you choose.
The ofrenda
A drawn altar under an arch of marigolds. Put up the people and pets you miss, with a photo or a painted card, set out what they loved (coffee, pan de muerto, music, a cigar), light a candle once a day and keep their memories. From the 31st of October to the 2nd of November the altar glows.
Lotería of fears
Twelve cards, one a day: El Olvido (being forgotten), La Nada (nothingness), El Reloj (running out of time), El Espejo (the face in the mirror). Turn the card over for Catrina's take on that fear and a two-minute exercise. Collect the deck.
Calaveritas
Write a calaverita literaria, the traditional funny verse in which Death comes for someone, about yourself. Start from Catrina's examples, then share it as a card with papel picado and your calaca.
Papel picado
Fold the tissue in half or in four, cut it with your finger, unfold it. It hangs on the garland over your calaca for a week, fading and drooping, then the wind takes it. Impermanence you can hold.
Marigold road
Irvin Yalom's "rippling": each marigold is someone or something that will carry a trace of you. The road grows.
Fear thermometer
Eight statements once a month; watch the temperature fall.
My last fiesta
Plan the send-off like a party: music, food, who speaks, how to be remembered, wishes about care, where the papers are. Share it as text when you're ready.
Pan de muerto
Thirty questions for the table, to talk about life and death with family. Pass the phone round.
Fiesta of the elders
People who did their best work late, and Becca Levy's finding that those who think well of ageing live about 7.5 years longer.